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What We Think About Shapes Our Homeschooling

7 January 2009 3 Comments

679227_thinking_her_futureHave you heard of the power of intention? It’s based on the idea that what we think about is what we get. If we think about how much we don’t want to fail, we’ll fail. If we think about succeeding, we will.

On the surface that sounds kind of foofooey (yes, I made that word up). I mean, we can’t make things happen just by thinking about them. We can’t control the universe.

Yet, there is some truth to the idea that what we habitually think about changes our life. The thoughts that go through our head again and again are tightly woven into how we respond to outside stimulus. If we constantly think negatively, and worry, and stress, we will act differently and make different choices than if our mind is full of hope, goals, and acceptance.

It’s not what think about *one time*. It’s what we think about over and over. It’s our attitudes, and general perspectives that direct our lives and what happens in them. If we wish for something one time, or even a dozen times, it won’t simply come to fruition because we focus on it. If the rest of the time we worry we won’t get what we want, or we get angry that we aren’t getting what we want, or we’re constantly annoyed with how things turned out, that’s what we’ll get over and over.

The truth is, the more we complain that things suck and the more we find the bad in our lives, the more things will suck for us in the future, and the easier and easier it gets to find the bad.

The flip side is true as well. The more we see how good life is, the more grateful we are for what we have, and the more often we accept that bad things happen while keep ourselves focused on how to move forward, the easier and happier life goes for us.

It’s our habitual thinking that makes a difference. It’s not magic. It’s simply cause and effect. We teach ourselves how to respond to the world, by responding to the world. And the world, it reacts to how we respond to it.

Does that mean we’ll win the lottery if we think about it all the time and never give up? No, not at all. Our thoughts don’t make random number generators land in our favor. However, our general response to not winning the lottery, our response to not getting what we want, that is what changes our life.

So, how does this relate to homeschooling? It’s very important to homeschooling, because, I’ll be frank with you; What goes through our head when we think about homeschooling is how our homeschooling will be.

If we constantly worry we’re not good enough, we won’t be good enough. If we think that we’re going to fail, we’ll fail. If we are confident that we’ll succeed, no matter what, we will. If we look for what’s working, it’ll work. If we spend time thinking about what’s great, it’ll be great. If we spend time thinking about how our kids aren’t learning, they won’t.

A large part of this comes from what we decide to look at. Have you noticed that when you get a new car, you suddenly see that car all over the road, whereas before, you never noticed them? There hasn’t suddenly been a surge of that kind of car on the road. It’s simply that our brain is choosing to see something that it was ignoring before. That changes your experience on the road.

The same is true for homeschooling. What we think about shapes the way we see homeschooling. And the way we see homeschooling will effect our choices, and our attitudes towards learning.

This is true with everything in life. What we think about shapes our life. What we think about shapes our homeschooling. It’s not the power of intention. It’s the power of using the muscle of our brains, our mental super powers, to make things good.

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3 Comments »

  • Sandra Foyt said:

    This begs the question of whether it’s possible to change out thinking.

    Jonathan Haidt, in The Happiness Hypothesis - Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom, cites studies showing that people have happiness set points. Supposedly, it takes extreme measures - meditation or medication - to change a person’s innate propensity to be happy.

    Personally, I tend to think that people can change themselves and the way they think, but maybe that’s just my inner optimist.

    Sandra Foyt’s last blog post: Is Home Schooling A Mainstream Choice?

  • Krystal said:

    Good topic, thanks for the insights. :)
    Krystal’s last blog post: Despite setbacks, I’m still an Obama Mama

  • Mark said:

    You are correct in the sense that we will see what we focus on and what we focus on becomes our reality, this applies to home schooling and every other aspect of our life.

    I do believe that the power of our intentions to convey energy and can and does have an impact on much that happens in our life.

    Mark’s last blog post: Have Fun!

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